The main way we get to know about each other is through conversation. It allows us to find out information about the other person while giving us the opportunity to give information about ourselves. This is very important when going out on a first date with someone new. We need to be able to communicate effectively, and to give the right impressions and make the right decisions about the other person. There are a number of ways we can converse that will allow you to get as much information as possible, and at the same time create a positive atmosphere.
Under normal circumstances you may be the most talkative person around, but put you in front of date and your gift of the gab soon dries up to a whisper. This is one of the most common things that occur when on a date. The reason is down to you being nervous. You may be so preoccupied about getting things right and worrying about what could go wrong, that you are unable to construct the most simple of sentences. Try to relax. You are not alone and your date is probably feeling the same as you. One way to get over this is by preparing yourself before the date. If you know you are a poor speaker or worry you fall silent in the presence of women, simply try to memorize a few questions to ask.
The problem as mentioned before is you are too busy being nervous and worrying, and may be unable to be creative on the spot. So prepare a few questions that you can ask when the conversation is drying up. You only need a few because they will break the ice and from her answers you can easily expand on new things she says. It is important that your questions are "open ended". What this means is that your questions cannot be answered with a simple yes or no. An example of open ended questions start with "What", "When","Where","Why "or "How". If you ask her a question such as, "do you like the movie?" She may answer with a yes or no, or some other short answer that will stop the conversation from progressing farther. But if you ask her an open ended question like, "what do you think about this movie?", her answer cannot be Yes or No.
Another important point to remember is that people like to speak about themselves. So if you ask questions relating to them, they will happily keep the conversation going with little effort needed on your part other than the odd question. When you are speaking, keep the tone of conversation light and positive. If you are continuously speaking about negative things, it will bring the mood down and eventually silence will follow. General conversation is best as you can speak on a wide range of things.
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